Showing posts with label health. Show all posts
Showing posts with label health. Show all posts
4 February 2018
World Cancer Day 2018 - What does the 'Big C' mean to me?
21 June 2016
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15 June 2016
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19 May 2016
10 Things you can do to Help a Child with Cancer
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Bring their favourite foods
Their tastes buds will probably change
throughout treatment, but favourites will probably remain favourites. I would
take a favourite food of each flavour type, e.g. sweet/savoury/fruity/sour, in
the hope that they would crave one of them. Also, if you’re visiting during
chemo; bring mints! Certain types of chemotherapy give you an strong metallic
taste out of nowhere and it’s awful. Really bad. Soft mints are the best
because you can spread them around your mouth in the hope of combatting it.
Even the nurses carry around mints for times of desperation.
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Hug them
As with all children, physical affection will
help to calm them. A hug is the best thing to do when they are upset because it
literally reduces stress levels (as oxytocin is released into our bodies, which
reduces heart rate and cortisol in our blood) it’s science. The child is also
around a lot of medical professionals who aren’t really allowed to give hugs etc,
so they are really needed from family and friends. This will also hep to combat
feelings of loneliness for you both.
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Ask them how they’re really
feeling and let them explain
This is really important for children,
especially when all their medical decisions are made by their parents. They
need to have control over some things, because they have none a lot of the
time. By asking them how they feel about it and letting them explain why they
feel this way, it not only allows them to become a more emotionally developed
individual, but it lets you understand how to work through problems with their
view in mind (which may understandably be very difficult to hear, but at least
they know you’re on their side). It will also make you feel like more of a team
when fighting this disease and make them feel less isolated, especially if you
relate to how they’re feeling and work out how to improve their negative
feelings. Note: ask them in a safe place where you know you can talk to someone
straight after, as it will be difficult for you to hear from them.
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LISTEN
I understand that this point is very similar to
the last, but it is the most important thing to do. A child’s life has just
been completely disrupted and so has yours. They have to listen to you tell
them what treatment they need and how their life will change from now on. And
thats a really impossibly difficult thing for you to do, and most children know
this. They will be able to sense how devastated you are, and this might result
in them not talking to you so that they don’t upset you; and this is very
emotionally damaging long term. To avoid this distant relationship forming,
it’s imperative that you listen to them. Try to really take it in what they’re
saying and react well to it; its the most valuable knowledge you can get. This
is also true for any siblings. You must just listen, without trying to force an
opinion on them or complete their sentences, just sit and absorb.
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Use charity websites for
first-hand advice
The fact that this is something I can advise is
amazing in itself to me. When I was diagnosed, there was little to no help out
there that we could easily access. Now there is a wealth of information
available, the most valuable I feel being personal stories and blogs. Online
medical journals are something you should avoid at all costs, whereas personal
stories of hope are a very positive resource that can really help you to feel
less alone and can even open up communication lines between you and people
going through the same ordeal/people who have come out the other side. Even
though no two cancer journeys are the same, many elements are shared and you
can always find general tips and tricks to deal with these things, especially
with the same chemotherapy type. There are often support line numbers on these
sites, which would be really useful in times of helplessness and emptiness.
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Adapt family days out to
include them/siblings
This is something that often gets pushed to the
sidelines when times get really tough and chemotherapy affects your child’s
abilities/immune system/appetite. However, special day activities are really
important in keeping the family unit strong; especially because of the impact
on the siblings, who often get far less attention and can become redundant
members. This can be inexpensive, which is such an advantage due to the
financial strain cancer treatment can cause, you just have to get creative with
it. I’m sure there are plenty of websites and magazines about having fun family
days on a budget, and these will be starting points that can be adapted to suit
your child’s capabilities. Often childlike ideas are the best, such as building
a duvet fort and watching Disney films in it. Although, it’s important to try
and let any siblings have their own time with parents and their own time with
their sick brother/sister, as they did before. Both this ‘alone time’ and
having family days will help to maintain a level of ‘normality’ in the child’s
life, which is so important considering everything that’s happening to them.
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Celebrate small victories
When life is really hard, it’s important to
realise how much you’ve had to fight your way through. I feel that the most
positive way to do this is by celebrating a win. Whether that win is getting
good blood work back or making it through a whole school day, it is important
to recognise it. When the world hasn’t given you much to be thankful for, be
thankful for how much work you’ve all put in to making these little things
happen. It’s again important to do this for siblings/parents as well to recognise
the fact that it is difficult for everyone right now, and achieving more than
getting out of bed is a feat in itself. Celebrations can be so simple, like a
family selfie or a ‘cheers’ at the beginning of dinner.
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Keep a diary/sketchbook
This might seem a completely ridiculous thing to
take up at such a time, but it really would help everyone in the immediate
family (especially siblings). Writing down feelings is a really useful tool for
processing your emotions, and getting them out of your head and on to paper is
a proven form of therapy. This will help to stop bursts of rage in front of
others, because you will be confronting your thoughts instead of ignoring them,
which is psychologically damaging (especially in the long term) and causes emotions
to emerge uncontrollably. A diary would also help you to keep a timeline of
this time in your life, which might allow you to keep more structure and
organise your time better- as you will be able to keep track of appointments
etc. Alternatively, if you are not inclined to keep a diary, a sketchbook would
be a good option. You don’t have to be an artist to do this at all, just
doodling little comics of something funny that happened that day would be good
as a mindfulness tool. This will also be really useful to see how your moods
have been and whether there are any patterns you could try to ease, e.g.
organising a coffee with a close friend the day before the child’s chemo bout
because you know that you feel really depressed on this particular day.
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Maintain self-care
It’s so easy to ignore your own needs when a
child is facing chemotherapy, because you feel that they are much worse off and
that you cannot feel bad for yourself because of what they’re going through.
This attitude will only help for a very short space of time. You can’t ignore
how hard this is for yourself, and getting help with this is absolutely nothing
to be ashamed of- would you think another parent/friend of a child having
chemotherapy would be ok? Getting help is the best thing you can do for you and
your child/children. This can be talking to friends/family, going to the gym to
burn off some steam, or talking to a councillor online/in person (although
making another set of appointments may feel like too much hassle). I would
encourage taking some time for yourself at the end of the day when you’ve put
the child/children to bed to practice mindfulness, which comes in plenty of
forms- you simply find one that you click with naturally. Meditation might seem
pointless to you, but going for a jog might seem like something you could
incorporate somewhere.
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Learn to accept the
post-cancer survivor
This will be the most difficult thing to do on
this list. There’s a global misconception that after treatment your child will
go back to their ‘old selves’, and believing in this will be very
psychologically damaging for the whole family. It is a life-changing event, and
it’s awful; but you can’t pretend it hasn’t happened. You will have a lot of
‘what ifs’ and these will often turn into negative thought cycles, which is
exactly what happens when you mourn someone. It took me a long time to realise
that we were all in mourning of the ‘pre-cancer’ me. Everyone was, we just
didn’t realise it; because of the pressure to be happy that I has survived. But
a new version of me was born after cancer, how could it not? After all the
treatment and emotional turmoil, everyone would
change; you have to to cope. And it’s crucial to accept the new version of the
child, because they will try to please you by pretending to be their old selves
and eventually lose who they actually are. It’s important to remember that any
child would change quite a bit during the actual duration of treatment, which
for me was an entire year. So, you will have to mourn, but at least understanding
this will allow you to eventually stop trying to get their/your ‘old/normal’
life back. This will be a lot better for you long term, and help you realise
why you’re often feeling the opposite to how you think you should, e.g.
devastated instead of appreciative.
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4 February 2016
Cancer Survival and its Impact upon Mental Health

When I first considered writing this post I didn’t
realise how upsetting it would turn out to be. Today is World Cancer Day as
well as #timetotalk day 2016, so I thought me and my younger sister Sophie could
collaborate on a post all about just how linked these two events are for her.
When I was 10 and Sophie just 8, she was diagnosed with a rare form of bone
cancer called Ewing’s Sarcoma which had developed in her right
femur. Thankfully she was diagnosed fairly early on in the cancer’s
development, so chemotherapy to reduce the size of the tumour prior to an
operation to remove it and the bone it was attached to was possible. Six months
of intensive chemotherapy was a pretty gruelling process for her, and involved
a massive loss of weight and hair. However, the operation to remove the bone
and tumour, replacing them with a titanium implant was even more painful. After
this, some intensive physiotherapy, and another set of chemo, she was finally given
the ‘all clear’ and entered remission.
Another couple of years’
down the line, and another
life-changing surgery was about to happen. This time Sophie had chosen it
herself, as she wanted to improve her quality of life. The metal implant in her
right leg could only be extended so far, and as her left leg grew during
adolescence, a gap between their lengths began to emerge. Not only did this
mean that her hips were unaligned (leading to spinal pain), but she also had to
have her right shoe built up, meaning that she could only wear specific types
of shoes, and only have a couple of new pairs per year. So, she embarked upon
her journey with the Illazrov frame, which would involve breaking her leg and
stretching it slightly over months so that the bone grew back longer, into the
gap that was created. Finally it was all over physically, apart from the
seemingly never-ending oncology check-ups and the constant gnawing pain of
having a metal implant instead of bone in her leg. But today we’re
going to talk about some of the mental health side effects that these
horrendous few years in her life has had upon her.
Q1.) Do you remember how you felt when you were first diagnosed? DO
you think there could have been more mental health assistance during this time
for both you and your family?
I felt a range of strong emotions, including
intense fear, bewilderment, guilt and sadness. I then sank into a feeling of
numbness and denial.
I feel that my family could have received more
support. Because I was so young at the time, I wasn’t
aware of my own mental health problems (as I lived in such a state of denial I
thought I was dealing with it well), however I know that my family struggled
very much at the time and would have accepted help had it have been offered to
them as individuals. Especially Steph who was often overlooked as she was also
so young; her struggles weren't taken seriously.
Q2.) In what ways do you think this could have been handled better?
What would you recommend for parents who are going through this experience with
their child?
I believe it is in fact now being handled better, as I have met the
daughter and mother of a family coping with the daughter’s cancer diagnosis and there are many more
charities now offering peer-help schemes and specialised nurses are now allowed
to recommend specific charities that can help with their needs. It is difficult
for medical staff to know how to handle such cases better, because each cancer
journey is unique, and each child reacts differently to the same treatment.
I would recommend utilising all the services now available to families
coping with a cancer diagnosis. I would also read blogs such as this, and talk
to other parents who have experienced the same or a similar diagnosis as your cchild
in order to gain first-hand knowledge and opinions of what worked and didn’t
in terms of helping their child to understand what is happening and how to
cope. Also, depending on the age of the child, they must be treated with the
understanding that this is not their fault. I remember being ‘told
off’ for not doing my physiotherapy, and feeling like
no one understood that I didn’t ask for any of this, and that other children
didn’t have to even contemplate these things.
Positive reinforcement is a lot more powerful than negative, even if results do
not come quite as quickly.
Q3: What was the emotional and psychological impact of the treatment
for the cancer itself?
Initially, my method of coping was to not cope. This sounds ridiculous
but is actually a legitimate, and very common, way of dealing with trauma. I
lived in a sort of pretend state where I was ok, and pretended that my
diagnosis hadn’t happened when I laid in bed at night. Apart
from this, I felt terrified of treatment as most visits involved an intrusive
procedure of some kind. And alone. I felt awfully lonely throughout treatment,
which was obviously not helped by my age and the rarity of my cancer.
Q4: In what way did your ‘all-clear’ diagnosis impact your mental health? Was it a
positive time for you, or much more complex than that?
It was very surreal. My real emotions were polar-opposite to what
everyone wanted me to feel, so I began pretending to be happy. It was like
everyone’s mood changed suddenly and left me behind. I
became a ‘cancer survivor’ rather than a ‘cancer
patient’, and people stopped treating me specially and
treated me more like a ‘normal’ person
again. I didn’t really understand how people could forget the
horror of my treatment and start calling me lucky instead. It was a difficult
time for me, mainly due to the fact that I couldn’t
tell anyone how I felt.
Q5.) Physiotherapy can be incredibly challenging physically as well as
mentally, are there any tips or tricks you found useful when you were going
through this aspect of treatment?
As I was a child, I responded well to turning exercises into games and
positive reinforcement. When people became frustrated with my lack of effort in
physiotherapy, I began to dread it and stopped finding any enjoyment in
activity whatsoever. This changed later on as I matured, but the initial
physiotherapy has such an impact on later stages that I feel it should be given
a higher level of importance in the treatment process.
Q6.) Did you experience ‘Survivor’s
guilt’? How would you explain it?
I felt this for a long time. I have recently started to experience it
less, but lived with it for about a decade. I would explain it as having an
overwhelming need to change the world with the extra time you have, but being
held back by emotional/physical restraints. It’s
a deep feeling that you must have lived for an amazingly great reason, and I
still find myself searching for this. It’s
both a blessing and a curse, because it does motivate me, but with a hefty
emotional cost when the impossible still remains impossible.
Q7.) Have you ever felt guilty for having your illness in the first
place? How do you think it affected you?
I felt guilty about it for a very long time, mainly about the impact
it had on my family. I think this was
linked to my Catholic upbringing, where I was taught that if I did bad things I
would be punished, and rewarded for good things. I also had very strong
feelings of self-guilt because I wished for my life to be more interesting just
before I was diagnosed.
Q8.) What advice would you give to those experiencing any form of
guilt during or after treatment?
- It is important to remember that other people don’t
have to go through this.
- You are strong and brave and have overcome the impossible. Be proud of
that.
- Talk about it, because saying things out loud will make you realise
how absurd it would sound from someone else. You can say it out loud to
yourself, talk about it with others, or write your guilty feelings out on a
piece of paper, maybe even on a blog.
Q9.) How would you like to see the approach to mental health after diagnosis
and after treatment change?
It has already changed greatly from 2005, which was when I was
treated, and has come far in respect to mental health. I would however like to
see cancer survivors receive more help now, regardless of when they were
treated. I think what we really need is to spread awareness of these issues to
the general public, as I have found that medical professionals now have a
greater understanding of such problems, and have help available to those who
seek it. The issue is in helping people to seek it. In order to let survivors
understand that their feelings are common and that they should not just be
absorbed as a normal part of their day, we need greater knowledge for mothers,
friends and peers to widen this discussion and normalise these conversations
about the mental impact of survivorship.
I hope you found this useful!
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