I didn't get a 'career' job after uni, and that's okay
I came so close to titling this 'I didn't get a proper job after uni, and that's okay', but I had to hold right up before I full on raged at myself. So let's get this out here in this post anyway: any kind of job is a real job or a proper job, okay? Just because someone doesn't work 9-5 or earns the minimum wage, doesn't make their job less valid than yours.
My first job when I left uni was at Wetherspoons. I hadn't even worked there as a student, it was genuinely my first job I got as a degree holder. And I loved it. Yes, there were a lot of times when it really sucked. I mean, finishing at three am to walk home in the dark and wake up for a morning shift in a matter of hours isn't exactly the dream. But, I wasn't entirely sure what I really wanted to do with my future anymore, and this gave me that time to stay in the student mindset.
A few months later, I was ready to move on, but again, I didn't go for a job that I could see myself having a career in. And then I did it all over again. My first job that took me above minimum wage and into a career that I genuinely want to make my way ahead in was the one I got at the end of August this year; just over two years on from graduation.
But I needed that time. My final year was one of the worst years of my life (and it had a lot of competition to nab one of the higher spots). I needed a break, and going straight into a full time highly pressured office job would not have been the right choice. I would have messed up it and absolutely regretted it.
It's also really fucking hard to transition from being a student to being a fully fledged adult, and it's okay to take some time to work out what you really want from life. And that's what I did. Whilst I was working in a variety of minimum wage jobs I got some experience on the side. I carried on writing on here, I did some freelance work for a journal. But I also reached a point where I realised that, degree or no degree, I really enjoyed waitressing, and if it came to it, I'd be happy to stick at it for the foreseeable future.
There was so much pressure put on me over the two years because I was 'letting myself down'. The amount of guilt I felt for going from an overachiever to an underachiever wasn't coming from disappointing myself by not going for those high paying jobs, but from other people. Yes, it sucked to meet up with my uni friends, and get asked the dreaded 'so what are you doing now?' question, and having to hear about their most recent promotion/pay rise. But would it have been worth putting my mental health in jeopardy and switching jobs just to save face? Hell no.
It's so important to remember that everyone is different, and that people react to the end of their educational years in different ways. Don't be the prick that makes someone feel bad because they're not coping with it in the way you expected. Do what's best for you, and remember that having a degree doesn't mean you have to step out of university and instantly get into a job that requires you to use it.
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This is such a relief to read. I'm in my final year of university and my friend keeps going on about how she's applied for all these graduate schemes, which is just not what I want. It's so good to hear that your first post-grad job isn't the be all and end all. Fab post, lovely!
ReplyDeleteSiobhan (attemptatadulthood.com)
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There's SO much pressure in final year to sort things out to go into a good job straight after uni, but having a break is so helpful!
DeleteSteph x
I love this post so much! I graduated in 2014 with a degree in Graphic Design ... I now work an office job .. don't get me wrong, I don't enjoy it! But it's what is right at the moment! And I 100% agree that trying to transition from being a student to an adult is so hard!
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It's so important to do what's right for you!
DeleteSteph x
A lot of people who's been working on their "perfect " jobs, with big salaries actually aren't so happy. But probably they don't know it either. It's more mature to admit yourself that you don't know what is your life path, but knowing that you will find out sooner or later than being stuck in the illusion of how it should be and what is right or wrong.
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I think it's hard to be happy - getting a stressful job and earning lots of money from it isn't always the way forward for everyone
DeleteSteph x
YES TO THIS POST!!! I have been there totally and nearly 3 years later, I still haven't got the 'career' job. And it is okay, since its fierce in the job market! Thank you for sharing, since so many soon to be grads are pulling their hair out panicking!!!
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Thank you! The job market is an absolute bitch to crack! I hope it helps some final year students
DeleteSteph x
Love this! People are always asking me how I feel about 'wasting' my degree because I don't have a job directly related to it. It used to really bother me but now I'm just like I'd rather be happy thanks.
ReplyDeleteIt's really important to say what you've said in this post, especially for people coming up to finishing degrees and starting to worry about what's next x
It's so rude when people ask that - it's up to you what you want to do with your degree in the end!
DeleteSteph x
I absolutely couldn’t agree more with this! Half of my friends from Uni found a career job straight away and it was super frustrating because I could never find anything to do with my course! Then I get comments from some of my family like ‘have you found a job where you aren’t wasting your degree’. It does make it hard sometimes but I think at the same time the job I have isn’t the worst job in the world and I am still young so I have time to develop in order to get to the career job I have wanted. :)
ReplyDeleteIt's so gutting when it feels like everyone is forging ahead and you're being left behind! I hope this helped to make you feel better
DeleteSteph x
Yeah it is sad but I am so glad to find out there are other people who are going through the same thing. :) I wrote about something similar to this a while back ~ I will leave the link :)
ReplyDeleteSophie Emily x
http://livelifedontdreamit.blogspot.co.uk/2017/07/post-university-depression-and-stress.html?m=1
There are so many people that feel like this - thanks for sending your link over!
DeleteSteph x